Mysticism

                Call me a romantic but I think about love a lot. We use the word a lot, as does the media, and over the years it seems to have lost its meaning. But anyone who has felt that true uplifting feeling when looking into a soul mates eyes, or sharing an intimate laugh with a true friend, or felt the warmth in a family members arms knows what I am talking about when I say “love.” But what is love, and what is true love? To me, love comes to you but true love doesn’t. You fall in love many times in your life, just because it doesn’t “work out” or the two people fall apart doesn’t mean it wasn’t love. “True” love is that rare thing that you wait a life time for. But it isn’t something that just happens when you meet the right person, you make true love out of love.

True love starts out as passionate love, that physical and mental attraction that initially excites you and brings you together. Bitter rejected lovers would call this lust, but it really isn’t. It may be slightly shallow and it is the stage that most break ups happen in but it is love nonetheless. After that initial stage of passionate love, compassionate love is added on top. This is where you learn to truly care about the person and begin to feel as though they are truly a part of your lives. After compassionate love comes companionate love. This is that sense that the person is truly your best friend and that you could spend your entire life with them. Finally, the pyramid built out of all the other stages of love comes to pass and the ultimate love arises; consummate love. This is where you are not only attracted and obsessed with the person, but you love their mind and the little things about them, you know they are your best friend, and you know that if the opportunity arose that you would die for them.

It takes work and patience to reach this stage of consummate true love; it is not just handed to you when you fall in love with a certain person. You fall in love and it progresses to something else much greater over time.  Some people don’t believe that this kind of love really exists, but these are the people who maybe have found initial love, but not someone to work at it with them. Sometimes you might fall in love with someone who doesn’t love you, or pretends to love you, or who isn’t ready for the kind of commitment you are after. But that doesn’t mean that there isn’t someone out there for you. You just need to find someone who sees the beauty in everything you do, in the way you move, in the way you think and speak. When you find the right person the world is brighter and you always feel like singing just remember that it takes mutual work, and mutual love.

You may not know immediately when you find the right person, but when you do know, you know. Don’t try to convince yourself that He or She is right for you if you don’t feel it down in your heart. If they can’t make you laugh, awaken you with a smile, make it so that you can’t help but smile. If they can’t hold you up, and make you feel like you are on top of the world, even in your darkest hour. Then they aren’t your true love.

True love is out there, it’s just a matter of finding it. And then, most importantly, perusing it at all costs, forever and ever, no matter what.